Being Positive Person

A very common missing ingredient for marriages in trouble is a lack of intimacy. For a marriage to be happy there must be a level of intimacy that goes beyond the physical and really embraces the emotional. Ask yourself the question, "does my marriage suffer from a lack of intimacy?"

When your marriage hits troubled waters you must really believe that you can save marriage. If you don't believe that as fact, then there is nothing you can do that will make a bit of difference. So right now, believe that it is possible for you to save your marriage.

1.) Be open and transparent with your spouse. Do you share or do you exclude and keep your emotions and emotional needs locked away and try and deal with things on your own? If you exclude your spouse emotionally, then your marriage lacks intimacy and it's time to get some and start on the road to save your marriage.

2.) Make sure that you're making every attempt possible to share your problems and worries with your spouse. Too often people find themselves worried and preoccupied with a situation. Instead of sharing this situation with their spouse, they decide to try and deal with it on their own. This is a big mistake because it excludes your spouse when you should be including them to help solve the problems together.

3.) Remember, spouses can very easily sense when something is wrong and if you exclude them, they quickly begin to feel shut out and that's when hurt feeling can quickly find its way into a marriage.

4.) The best way to get intimacy into your marriage so that you can save your marriage is to make time for your marriage. In today's world when a thousand and one things can take up your time, not making time for your marriage is a surefire way for a marriage to hit troubled waters. It's no fun discovering that when you were busy with your career or focusing your time on attending to the kids that your marriage just melted away.

5.) Make sure that if you want to save your marriage that you're actively making time for your spouse and your marriage. Once in a while take a afternoon off and have some fun with your spouse. When your spouse realizes that you value them to the extent of changing your schedule to include them, you will begin to see an improved difference in your marriage.

6.) Creating the right amount of intimacy in your marriage so that you can save your marriage will take effort on your part and is a continuing process. Do not make the mistake of allowing your marriage to be left set on automatic. A healthy and intimate marriage is one that is attended to on a regular basis, only then will it thrive and be the happy healthy relationship you always wanted.